So, I almost joined Christian Mingle...and Tinder...and Bumble...and Black People Meet (which I am not even sure people actually use). I am generally not a fan of dating apps, mostly because I have watched Catfish too many times. For a long time I would tell people that God didn't need help bringing them their spouse. I would say that people were trying to go ahead of God's timing because of their own impatience. For someone to have that mindset, how on earth did I get to this point?
To be honest, I was tired. I was tired of feeling like I wasn't good enough. I was tired of feeling like I wasn't beautiful. I was tired of feeling like I was going to have to settle. I was tired of feeling like I was going to have to wait for a spouse longer than I was going to have to wait for menopause. Out of fear, anxiety, and a whole lot of comparison, I was ready to hand pick someone for me.
There are so many of us Christians who are living for Christ, serving, celibate, educated, and breathtakingly gorgeous, and are still waiting for God to wake our spouse up. But in our waiting, we have allowed our desire for a mate to become our idol. It becomes all we desire and it becomes the focus of our attention and efforts. I challenge you today to not waste this season in your life. Allow yourself to live a life that is in active pursuit of your God given purpose. Take those classes, go to those conferences, take those trips, start that non-profit, read those books, start the ministry. Use this time to focus on your spiritual development, to take care of the person God made you to be, to fortify the relationships you have with your community.
For those of us who have been promised a spouse, God is going to keep that promise. If it was promised, there is no need to sweat it! Waiting doesn't mean you are ugly or undeserving. I am declaring right now that doubt and anxiety will not have rule over. You will enjoy this season of being single. You will use it for the glory of God, you will see His goodness, you will live a live of fullness. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, you were made in the image of God, you are worthy to love and be loved. I am thankful for the friends that encourage me daily to wait on God and remember who I am, so here's yours.
God loves you!
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